tropical_hermit ([info]tropical_hermit) wrote,
@ 2009-06-18 01:34:00
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a certain anxiety
so...  i'm definitely strarting to freak out a bit.  i think, in large part, it's pms and...  anyone who knows me knows that can be pretty frightful without any OTHER stressor...  but yeah...  i feel myself...  idunno

i freaked out on adrian for nothing tonight.  and yeah, i have some stuff...  but it's really magnified...  i KNOW most guys are NOT into the wedding planning and all of that.  it doesn't help that my cooworker was talking about the excel spreadsheet her fiance made for their wedding in SEPTEMBER...  that i'm thinking WOW...  i wish i had that kind of help, you know?

we went to get our marriage license today.  had to hold our hands to the air and swear to whatever she asked us.  and then at the end told us how i would go about changing my name.  and i had told adrian it took a bunch of money to change my name (because i thought it so and didn't really want to change it), and she goes on and on about how i should do it, and adrian pipes up, 'is there a cost to that?' and she says, 'oh, no...  it's free.'    and details the rest of the protcol, 'take this document to the dmv, take that license to the social security...  blah blah blah'.  and i say, 'but i don't have to change my name, right?'  and she says, 'no.'  and shoots me a disapproving look, 'but it's your only chance to do so.  you'll have 3 months to decide.  after that, there's no turning back.'

and i'm thinking.  i could always do it at ANY time and pay 500 bucks but wow...  what pressure.  

and WHY do i NOT want to change my name?  because i have a website entitled www.kellyannehoward.com, because i have this whole artistic enterprise based off of me, my name, my style, my voice, influence and brand...  clothes, books, paintings, photographs, music, spoken word...

i just feel like i need to find some sort of legal advice on the matter.  can i trademark my name?  i don't think i can.  i think it has to be name + something eg enterprise, productions, etc.  ideally, i'd like to use my name as a public moniker and change it my married name.  but, i'm unsure if i legally change my name that i won't have any rights to use it.

bizarre!!!  

i rented 'bride wars' from amazon the other day (when the car was broken and i was stuck at home) and watched it on the computer.  i needed something/someone to make fun off all this bullsh*t.  and it IS...  BS.  the details are devilish because that's where the mess begins.  i was always messy with my endgame...  no real patience or competive spirit...  i just want to play.  don't have to win...  and here...  i need to achieve a predicted end result.  

there is just to do.

i know that in so many areas of my life...  what to do...  and yet, find the impending leaves me distracted in avoidance of the weight.  

 



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[info]psikodelia
2009-06-18 04:34 pm UTC (link)
The choice to take on another's name is an intensely personal one. The woman who said there's no turning back? Full of shit. You can change your name at anytime, there's no time-limit. So, at the very least, you can remove the immediate pressure off of you.

Secondly, there's the option to go by your current name professionally and your married one in your personal life. You can hyphenate. You can basically do whatever you want.

I'm not offering legal advice, just girlfriend-to-girlfriend.

I will never change my name, personally. I identify with it, I want my accomplishments to be tied to *my* family, not the family name of someone I happened to marry. But again, uber individual choice.

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[info]tropical_hermit
2009-06-24 06:24 am UTC (link)
i totally appreciate your input... i have no idea what i'm going to do yet. but, i think... i can trademark my name and take his. i think that's the plan. :)

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Legally changing your name
[info]fairwells
2009-06-18 08:12 pm UTC (link)
Yah, I think about the problems that come with changing your name legally. I understand your concerns. And they are valid ones. I was thinking of hyphenating my name, just adding his last name to mine. That was the best compromise I could think of. Or just adding it and not hyphenating. That way you can still use your maiden name. But legally your husband's name will be there.

Lots of celebrities don't change their names after they get married for the very same reasons you stated. Or they do, but publicly they still use their maiden name because I think it's trademarked/copyrighted. I guess you can look into that and try that.

Anyway, Congrats on your nuptials =)

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Re: Legally changing your name
[info]tropical_hermit
2009-06-24 06:26 am UTC (link)
yeah, i have yet to appreciate all the options. :) thanks for your input, and sorry for the delay, i think i can trademark my old name and take his without too much confusion or money.

thanks so much for your kind thoughts! :D

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Re: Legally changing your name
[info]fairwells
2009-06-25 12:17 am UTC (link)
You're welcome. Good luck =)

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